After yesterday’s post about Mary and Martha I had it on my heart to speak to wives today about the difference this stillness and waiting can make in their marriages. I discussed yesterday how people seem to be in a hurry all the time. In a hurry in their activities and also in a hurry to pass judgement, get mad or voice an opinion. Let’s look at what the Bible has to say about wives concerning these things.
In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives, when they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him-to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]… let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. (1 Peter 3:1-4, Amplified)
I have spoken to many wives who were upset by the fact that their husbands were not obeying the Word of God. They have been quick to judge, quick to speak, quick to voice their opinion to their husbands. However, this passage in First Peter says that husbands that do not obey the Word of God are not won over by discussion. They are won over by the godly lives of their wives.
As I mentioned yesterday, Mary spent time at the Master’s feet waiting, listening, being still. She was not quick to move or quick to speak. On the other hand, Martha was very quick to act and very quick to voice her opinion. And Jesus said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:41-42, NKJV).
First Peter also mentioned having a gentle and peaceful spirit, not anxious or wrought up. Now some may say, “That’s just not my personality”. Let me share what Henry Drummond said about this in his sermon The Greatest Thing in the World.
Souls are made sweet not by taking the acid fluids out, but by putting something in–a great Love, a new Spirit, the Spirit of Christ. Christ, the Spirit of Christ, interpenetrating ours, sweetens, purifies, transforms all.
The Spirit of Christ interpenetrating our spirits. “But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which his presence within accomplishes is…” love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Galatians 5:22-23, Amplified).
Also from Henry Drummond’s The Greatest Thing in the World:
Love begets love. It is a process of induction. Put a piece of iron in the presence of a magnetized body, and that piece of iron for a time becomes magnetized. It is charged with an attractive force in the mere presence of the original force, and as long as you leave the two side by side, they are both magnets alike. Remain side by side with Him who loved us, and gave Himself for us, and you too will become a center of power, a permanently attractive force; and like Him you will draw all men unto you, like Him you will be drawn unto all men. That is the inevitable effect of Love.
Mary sat at His side. Mary listened. Mary was changed.
If you find yourself wrought up. If you find yourself trying to ‘fix’ your husband through discussion. I recommend spending more time seated at the side of Love Himself. Letting Him love on you and letting Him teach you His ways. Letting Him advise you on how to be a wife who will be a blessing (bless = empower to prosper) to your husband.
We love Him and we love others because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). Everything described in our passage from First Peter describes a wife who loves her husband. Sit at His side and let God Who is Love teach you how.