Let everything you do be done in love… (1 Corinthians 16:14, Amplified)
Every thought. Every word. Every action.
By His grace in you.
…The Spirit Whom He has caused to dwell in us yearns over us and He yearns for the Spirit [to be welcome] with a jealous love… But He gives more and more grace (power of the Holy Spirit, to meet this evil tendency and all others fully). That is why He says, God sets Himself against the proud and haughty, but gives grace [continually] to the lowly (those who are humble enough to receive it). (James 4:5-6, Amplified)
Grace, the power of the Holy Spirit. The power of God’s Spirit Who lives within you.
You will not do everything in love by willpower. You will not do everything in love by your own ability, your own love, your own goodness. The only way to do everything in love is to acknowledge that without Him you could never truly love, but then thank Him that you are not without Him.
“I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5, NKJV)
But the the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes is love, joy… peace, patience… kindness, goodness… faithfulness, gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control… (Galatians 5:22-23, Amplified)
Love … is patient and kind… (1 Corinthians 13:4, Amplified)
…God’s love has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit Who has been given to us. (Romans 5:5, Amplified)
Therefore it is of faith, that it might be by grace… (Romans 4:16, KJV)
We were instructed to do everything in love. Understand that without Him this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. And you are not without Him. When the temptation comes to be unlovely, by faith believe His love and the power of the Holy Spirit is in you to love in every situation.
When I find myself having a hard time loving, I say, “I yield to love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and goodness. I yield to faithfulness, humility and self-control. By the power of the Holy Spirit in me I choose to love.”